Bouncing back is often the most difficult step in midlife
By Donovan Grant
It’s easy to get empowered for an hour by listening to a motivational audio or DVD program. But, if you want to be empowered to live an optimal life- what it really takes is to get you there is resilience!
You may be thinking that resilience is something reserved for people who are engaged in battle, but let’s have a closer look.
It could be the ability to bounce back from a setback. It may be the fact that you can keep on track despite having distractions around you. Or it may be that you want your goal so much that you refuse to be denied.
And here’s the thing- no matter what calling you have in life resilience could be a great ally.
Anyone who’s ever tried to kick an unwanted habit will know what it feels like to have resilience as an ally. In fact the difference between success and failure in anything could just be how quickly you are able to shrug off a problem that is holding you back.
Just think about professional soccer players in a match. The big difference between them and amateurs is the desire to win, their ability to recover from challenges and their quick and creative thinking to make something happen.
These players don’t stand around thinking about what went wrong when they lose the ball. Their first instinct is normally let’s get the ball back; what can I do to help the team and they get back into position straight away. Resilience is important to us all; at work, as a parent and at play!
Have you ever had one of those mornings?
You know when it seems like everything’s going wrong… The milk gets spilt on the counter, the kids are dragging their feet getting ready for school, you can’t find your favourite shirt and then you get half way to the station and realise you’ve left your train season ticket in your other jacket pocket. Times like this are frustrating and it is useful to be resilient.
Without resilience you may find yourself getting dragged down and life starts chipping away at your self-confidence, self-esteem and self-competence!
Let’s face it though; we’re all going to have these annoying things that can happen when we least expect; so the question is how will you respond?
During tough times we need to take smart action…
We’ve handled career challenges, medical issues and parenting problems by making the right move. Nothing in life runs smoothly all the time, but what a difference optimism and resiliency makes as you handle everything that comes your way!
Just imagine if you were able to simply change some of your results just by having a little more resilience. This could be the key to coping with problems as they arise rather than allowing them to fester. And the starting point is looking within and asking yourself “what do I want?” and “what is stopping me?”
You can develop resiliency skills easier than you think…
Here are 3 proven ways that can help you to develop your resilience:
1. Increase your self-belief: Think of a time when you were totally being a genius, what were you doing? Why was it so special to you? What strategies did you use?
2. Increase your flexibility: How flexible are you? As we start to get a bit older, it’s easy to settle rather than embrace change… how can you be 1% more flexible today?
3. Increase your exercise and recovery time: Experts say that if you get adequate exercise and rest, it is the best cure for being stuck… Are you following a regular exercise plan? And what’s your sleep pattern like?
Remember this- Change is inevitable for sure, practice resilience this week; make a comeback.
I love the way Joel Olsteen summed it up…
“Hard times may have held you down but they will not last forever; when all is said and done, you will be increased.”
Here’s to taking resilience to the next level.
Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play.www.donovangrant.com