A Bright Future Begins With The Development Of The Child Now
By Donovan Grant
“I believe that children are the future. Teach them well and let them lead the way.”
She was one of the most amazing female singers in my lifetime.
Whitney’s own view was “God gave me a voice to sing with” and didn’t she sing!
Just imagine being the winner of 2 Emmy Awards, 6 Grammy Awards and over 170 million record sales. Such a talent.
And of course, we all realise that with great talent comes great responsibility too.
Even though you and I have prayed well wishes to the
What does her passing mean to you? Celebration or commiseration? The thing is this- we can choose the meaning and the headline that makes sense for us.
Isn’t it interesting that most of us have never met her, but it almost feels like one of our own family has left us. Just imagine young Whitney discovering she had such a lovely voice and then being groomed for stardom by her family and friends. As I thought this earlier in the week, the question came to me: “are we raising our children to be the success that God has designed them to be?”
You see success for young people is not just about how many degrees they have, having a great job and earning lots of money. As we saw with our dear sister, there is an inner success that we need to work on too. Do you think it’s important to help your children find and nurture their talents? Me too. In fact this is key to their future achievements. But, what about helping them to feel happy, confident and have peace of mind in their lives? We can’t just hope that they’ll be ok.
In the song the Greatest Love Of All, Whitney left a message with me through the following verse…
“I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier”
Here are a few tips that I’ve learnt in my own life and it is a pleasure to share them with you now…
#1: Children are our future
Have you seen a young person who was worried about their future? It is quite common to meet a young person who needs help identifying career and study choices that match the person they are. When we see this, it’s time to roll up your sleeves and give them a hand. Share with them the value of educating themselves about their character, personal interests, strengths and even their weaknesses.
Let’s remind our children that it doesn't hurt if they feel a bit unsure what the future holds for them. We just need to be there for them. Just like a young singer would need her singing coach to advise her how to be the best singer she can be. One thing for sure is that no matter how it appears, your children want you to help them to shape their future.
#2: Teach them well and let them lead the way
Whether your child is in public school, private school or you are homeschooling, you are their first teacher. Isn’t it true that no one knows your children like you? You’ve seen their struggles, confusions and frustrations in life and in their studies.
We all have a dream of success for our young people. No one wants a ‘failure’ on their hands. Yet one of the beautiful lessons that we can teach as parents is that it is ok to fail. Yes, that’s right it’s ok to fail as long as they learn a lesson and ‘get back up again’. An art of teaching at home is being patient enough to find those teachable moments where your child really shines. If we watch them close enough, they will lead us. Whether it is doing a chore, watching a movie, reading a book or just playing; our children give us the opportunity to make every situation a learning experience.
#3 Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Despite what the media says, being beautiful is not about being a specific size or wearing certain clothes. Being beautiful is about celebrating the unique person we were made to be. Are you a positive role model and a great influence for your daughter or son? When our children become young adults and feel wonderful from the inside, it doesn’t get any better than that!
But let’s be honest, it’ not easy to help children, especially girls to realise their own beauty. And many of us parents struggle with self-esteem, body image and confidence too. Let’s takes it step by step and keep giving supportive messages to make our children aware of what is most important in life. In this exercise, maybe us adults may learn a few things about ourselves as a bonus.
#4 Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
e can’t "make" our children have positive self-esteem. We can tell a child all day that he or she is beautiful, intelligent or talented but he or she won't necessarily buy into the idea. It is far better if we can SHOW them.
How can we do this? Well, we have to lead by example. Wherever we are in the world we need to start by inspiring our children to be proud of their heritage. Let’s face it; the self-worth of our children is a serious subject. As you read this today, many children are in identity crisis. Not because of something they have done, or their friends or even others. But simply because of negative imagery of children that we see in the mass media.
If we do what Whitney said and “give them a sense of pride”, it will make it easier and bring back the laughter and the fun.
Let’s raise boys and girls so they find the beauty in every human being!
With much love,
What are your best for preparing children for a bright future? Please share them in the box below.
Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play. www.donovangrant.com