The Hidden Treasure Of Parenting
By Donovan Grant
I use to laugh whenever I heard people say that “parenting is a job for life.” After 22 years in the job the verdict is “it’s true!”
Just like with all jobs it is full of problems, learning and growth for us and our children. Whether your children are 7, 17 or 47 you probably find there is always something to keep you busy. And let’s face it no two days are the same for mums and dads; there is always an emergency to deal with.
What would life be like if we considered the ups and downs of parenting as a gift?
Have you ever had one those tough days when you’ve asked “why me God, why me?” It’s quite natural to have some frustrating days and in fact it’s ok for us to feel this way sometimes. With all the factors that impact our lives from day to day, our children (depending on their age) tend to occupy a lot of it. The school runs, sports and music classes and sharing some quality time so they don’t up spending all day watching television.
If you surf around the internet on parenting websites you’ll find plenty of descriptions for what’s like being a parent. Teacher, mentor, nurse, social worker, disciplinarian, comforter, encourager,…etc; when you wear so many hats it’ s understandable that you have some tough days when you have too many emergencies to attend to.
Imagine sitting on the train going from home to the office writing this article and then you receive a message text from your child’s school:
“IMPORTANT NOTICE! The school will be closed today as we have no water supply”
This happened to me while writing this article and the parenting alarm bell started ringing . . .
What time is it?
I checked the time; it was 8:40 am.
What time does my son leave for school?
Ring home now!!
“Hi Jen it’s Don, the school just texted to say that Nate’s school is closed today because they don’t have any water supply!”
My job was done.
In truth I had transferred the parenting emergency baton to Jen. Luckily she was able to find a child minder to look after Nate for the day when she went off to work. Another parenting crisis well handled.
Parenting is of course full of love, happiness and fun times. In fact 99.999% of us would not give up parenting for anything in the world.
So, have you ever wondered if every problem that we face as a parent could be a seed of a spiritual lesson for us?
Could all the frustration, overwhelm and discomfort be part of the bigger plan for you to become the best parent that you can be?
If you’re like me, when you are on a parenting emergency the last thing you’ll be thinking is ‘this stressful moment is actually good for me.’ It’s more likely that you’ll be feeling that it’s another problem to add to your list.
If you stop and ponder for a moment . . .
How many times have you looked back and saw that your parenting wisdom and understanding grown to new levels. If you were to look deep enough you may even find that the times when you have shined as a parent were often after what seemed to be bad times for you.
“… to everyone to whom much has been given, much shall be required from them.” Luke 12:48.
Parenting is hard work and yes, sometimes it may feel like a job. Yet each and every day you are realising the value of being a loving parent. The hidden treasure that lifts your spirit because you make it possible for your child to learn and grow towards their potential.
Remember this- every minute that you share with your child now will result in a stronger young adult in the future.
Let’s raise the next generation to be the best that they can be.
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Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play. www.donovangrant.com