Living Your Midlife Dream: Boldly Walking the Tightrope with No Net?
By Donovan Grant
If you could have a theme for your life in 2013, what would it be?
The year is now firmly underway and people everywhere are talking about big goals and plans. In the office, your managers are asking for higher targets and more efficiencies; your personal trainers have got the latest idea in building the ultimate beach body; and the finance planners have got the top three investment ideas for your portfolio.
Yes, everywhere you turn someone has got something in store for you this year. Aren't you lucky? Well, no actually. Why is this?
The thing is- although these helpers are well intentioned and have your best interests at heart, you have to ask yourself "do these things really fit in with my own plan especially in midlife?" Or is this this setting goals just because everyone else is doing it?
It's all well and good to set the usual SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, reasonable and timed) goals that everyone knows about. But what about your underlying theme? What is the deeper meaning for your life that is going to keep you moving forward when the going gets a little tougher this year?
It's what we refer to as your theme or mission.
Just like most companies have a mission statement for their business aims, it makes sense that we have a mission statement for our midlife too. Something that keeps us anchored and centred. Then once we are clear on our mission then we can look at what we need to create, achieve and deliver to make our mission happen.
Have you got an underlying them for 2013 yet? If not, then this fun exercise that I did recently can help you too.
While looking at my own theme for 2013 I looked at all the roles that I play in life and distilled this into my top five. Then I looked at what was my highest intention for each of those roles and what would it take for me to achieve that. Finally, I summed up what it meant to me overall and I ended up with my theme for 2013.
"To live a life full of vitality, to be grateful for life and family and to be more open and empowering in everything my business creates!"
Now that I have this theme, I will only pursue goals which are in alignment with my underlying theme. Of course, it's possible that my plans change part way through the year, so I will remain flexible when the need arises.
So how can you use this idea?
Well let's say for example that you've set goals before and you have found that after the initial excitement, the goal just fizzles out and ends up being on your wish list; this could be a great alternative to use. This could be the ideal time to do something different. We all know what happens to people who keep doing the same thing… yes, they get the same results.
The key to this year being the best year ever begins and ends with you. If you want it to happen you need to make the first move. You need to start fast and just build up momentum. Are you ready to get started now? Are you ready to make this part of your life the best part of your life?
Just grab a pen and write down your top five roles that you play in life and then jot down your underlying intention for each of those roles. It doesn't have to be word perfect, you just need to get a feel or get a sense of what you want.
|Donovan's top five roles for 2013
1. Dad – inspire self confidence and believe in my children to become their best self
Let's make 2013 your best year ever!!
From my heart to yours.
What are your big plans for 2013? Are you setting yourself some stretch goals that will give you the growth and success you really need? Share an idea below, we'd love to be your partner who holds you accountable throughout this year.
Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play.www.donovangrant.com