The Magic Of 4 P’s In Positive Parenting Of Teens

The Magic Of 4 P's In Positive Parenting Of Teens

By Donovan Grant

When you raise your children to be their best there are steps that lead you to better relationships, more confidence and great results. It’s the magic of the 4 P’s in all of your parenting and nurturing.

Let’s stroll through the 4 P’s as if we were going down memory lane. It will make it easier for you to lead and channel your energy with every new opportunity you face.

The first “P” is the phrase positive self-image (PSI). You must aim to build your child up so they are happy, confident and safe with who they are. It’s important that you do this now and develop every this every single day!

On a scale of 1 – 10, what is your child’s PSI score at today? If it’s above six when they are at home and below five when they are in public, you need to help them out. In some cases, they may be worried about their looks, not fitting in with friends at school or not interested in their current studies. Rather than focus on what the school exam score card says, the underlying issue could be that they have a low self-esteem at the moment. You may even see them acting out of character trying to handle these trying times on their own. Take time to talk to them and really listen to how they are feeling about themselves. Their confidence will start to grow just because they know you care.

Offer your children a safe place for them to explore their weaknesses and develop their strengths. Pay attention to what they need and want and what they may avoid talking about most.

Developing a child with a positive self-image is not rocket science but it takes us parents to listen, think and inspire day-by-day.  

Keep working on their PSI every day and they’ll stand up for themselves in any peer group.

Now, let's jump to "P" number two. This is the word potential. Your child is uniquely gifted to be successful and stand out. To uncover your child’s talents in life, your job is to watch, listen and then facilitate. As mum and dad, you know your child better than anyone so this is a nice easy role for you. You are with your child every day talking and playing. They reveal their dreams, their doubts and their fears. They don’t always say it, but they are looking for you to listen to the problems that children have to face.

Teachers and friends give them advice and guidance however, you hold the key. You’ve seen the flashes of brilliance. You know where they need to be push, pull or just pause. This is where you can lift them to become all that they were meant to be.

They may not take all the hints that you pass on, and that’s ok. The important thing is that you’ve given them the momentum to keep moving forward!

Okay, now for the third “P” in parenting and nurturing. This is the word participate. If your child wants to be a great artist they’ve got to spend the time doing what artists do. So, how do you show your child what an artist does? The word is exposure. They’ve got to have the chance to meet artists or see the work produced by the artists to give them a feel for what it really is like.

By meeting professionals who already participate in the field gives them a chance to hear stories. They get to learn ideas and practice that books and school alone can’t provide. The big take-away is that the get a sense of the habits, the beliefs and results they will need to work toward.

Top idea: Let them draw their own conclusions as to whether a specific field is really for them! This will give them the sense of control and knowledge that they are responsible.

The final “P” is the word persistence. This is a tough cookie for adults let alone children to master. This will have a bearing on how far your child travels toward their potential. This is also a factor in how confident they are in life as a whole.

Persistence will help your child to stand out in a crowd and will put them ahead of peers with equal or greater ability. The big thing is that setbacks and failures will strike in your child’s life. What is their response when this occurs? Most young people find it hard to cope with being wrong. They feel that they are “not good enough” or that “it’s too hard”. However, we can teach our children a better meaning of failure. When we help them to know they are a step closer to the solution and that failure is how all the world’s great feats came about; they will learn the value of “keep going”.

If you use the 4 P’s as a strategy, even let it be your checklist, you’re going to see positive benefits for you and your child. And I’d love to hear about it!

Can you leave comment below and let us know what the potential college or career plans are for your child? It would be great to share in your journey cheer you and your child as you use the value of The 4 P's In Parenting And Nurturing. 

Do comment below- it will be great to hear from you!


Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations.  He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play.


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  • Thanks Donovan for sharing the vital 4 P’s in positive parenting.  If people only realized you can still get great results with your teens or younger kids without the “whip of discipline.”

  • Thanks Donovan for sharing the vital 4 P’s in positive parenting.  If people only realized you can still get great results with your teens or younger kids without the “whip of discipline.”

  • This is brilliant Donovan! Thanks for sharing your wisdom! Happy Holidays!

  • Donovan, persistence is the last and probably the most important. I think most parents like their children to achieve something in life, but what I see a lot happening is that a lot of young adults do is “give up”, which sets them up for failure in life overall. Once they haven’t finished something, it seems really hard for them to persist through their next endeavour!

  • Love this Donovan!  Each of the P’s are so vital to the health of a child. I especially love the word Participate. I love nothing more than allowing my child to explore those things that bring him great joy!  Thanks for sharing another great article!  I love hearing from you each week! 

  • Another brilliant article Donovan! I love all of the 4 P’s you have mentioned – they are all so very important. Thanks for sharing.

  • Thank you Donovan…In reading the 4P’s it would seem that ‘Persistence’ is the glue that holds or allows for the other three to grow and develop…Thinking Positive and the 4p’s, an awesome article Donovan! …Cheers, Hughie 🙂

  • Wow, Carol. You couldn’t have put it better! Let’s spread the word out.

  • Cheers Denny, you too!!

  • Thanks Olga, I have seen it too. Failure is a gift, but only if the young people take the lesson from it. We need to encourage them that ‘feedback’ is the new ‘failure’. Not just softening the bolw, but more a case of what else can failure mean.

  • Thanks Jennifer, it’s such a blessing to have your awesome feedback.

  • Thanks Annemarie, great to see you popping by!

  • Thanks Hughie, it’s a pleasure to have your warm feedback and support!!