Making the best of a bad decision


Making the best of a bad decision

By Donovan Grant

Isn’t the life of dad funny? Not funny in the sense that life is one big joke; it’s funny from the perspective that life has a way to kick you up the bum just when you don’t expect it.

The night before I was the Master of Ceremonies at a Sickle Cell Society fund raising dinner and less than 24 hours later I was sitting in the emergency ward at East Surrey Hospital.

This turn of events made me wonder…  could life’s kick up the bum simply be reaping of seeds that we’ve sown previously?  You’ve heard one of the oldest principles in the book:

If you sow good seeds, you reap good results; and if you sow bad seeds, you get bad results.

Surely life is not that simple. Surely, I’ve not been sowing bad seeds. One thing for sure is that it’s definitely a time for reflection.

Have you ever seriously considered “what seeds are you sowing in your life today?”

The reason I raise this issue is because I crashed off my bike on the weekend and broke my arm and badly bruised my hip plus my pride. People of course fall and break their arms every day. But not me. I’m a great rider; I’ve been riding seriously for over 10 years now so I know my stuff!

Can you remember ever being, acting and feeling unstoppable? That was me too.

You know, it was okay for a novice to have hiccups, but not me. I just couldn’t understand it. During the past 24 hours, I’ve replayed those 60 seconds before the bike crash in my head over a 1,000 times:

Go past big sign on bright orange card no.1 “steep hill ahead”

Road starts sloping down, bike picks up speed; go past bright orange sign no.2 “STEEP HILL”

Maintain a light touch on the brakes. I didn’t see any more signs so, obviously the worse was over.

Open the brakes up a bit. The road is quite straight ahead, I let the bakes off all together…


A very tight bend appears on the horizon and it’s too late to slow down… SKID. . . SLAM INTO THE CURB. . . BANG HEAD, HIP AND ARM INTO TARMAC. . . THEN SLIDE 7 METRES ON MY BACK! Ouch!

When you get up and walk away from a crash like that, two words came to mouth “thank God.”

It could have been a lot worse.

But here’s the thing that got me; I trained hard for two months, the bike was in great shape and the conditions were perfect for cycling. So what went wrong? I didn’t follow the sign.

Steep hill on a bike = DANGEROUS

But somehow, to me it read “GO FOR IT!”

Tony Robbins famously said that it’s the decisions that you make that shape your destiny. Whether it’s a well thought out decision or a split second decision every decision counts. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes bad and on some days we get lucky. Even with all the planning, training and the best kit; one bad decision can mess it all up.

The essential thing is that you take time to review your decision after the event.

What was your aim?

What went well?

What did not go well?

What would you do different next time?

My aim was to go faster, ride longer and be the best that I can be. Yet I crashed out!! Lesson learned. Next time I am going to heed the signs and travel with caution down steep hills!

What about you? Are you taking notice of the signs in your life? Have you had a decision that you made go horribly wrong? Hey friend, you’re not alone, so no need to beat yourself up. I believe that sometimes there are lessons God wants us to learn in life and He gives us free rein to make choices.

Just like the farmer who sows his seeds in the soil and waits for the harvest, when we make a decision, the quality of the decision will make a difference to the end result.

In the end life is funny and we will get kicked up the bum. It’s part of the plan. So be on the lookout for life’s great learning’s because they are all around you.

From my heart to yours


Has life kicked you in the bum recently? What lesson have you learned from sowing seeds? Leave a comment or a question below, we love to hear from you. Sharing is caring!

Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations.  He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play.


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  • Sandra

    Thank you so much for this great post.
    This reminds me that in life there will be some obstacles that will get in the way that might put us off track but the key is to wipe away the ‘dust’,hold on to that faith and keep moving.

    Thanks for sharing your story.


  • Hey Sandra, thanks for stopping by. I love that expression “wipe away the dust and hold on to faith” – the truth is that sometimes faith can seem like all we have. Our limbs may break, our judgement may be off, yet when we sit in a quiet place and consider all the things that we have to be thankful for and all that is to come; this is all we need to keep moving.
    Thanks for sharing your wisdom.