Mid-life already? Play to your strengths and develop a new game plan
By Donovan Grant
When you play to your strengths you’ll have fun, fun, fun! The unfortunate thing too many of us have been told “you’ve got to work on your weaknesses?”
The question is, does working on your weaknesses come from the place of comparing yourself with others?
Now I am all for having a bit of balance and being competent in many different things, but surely you can’t be an expert in them all?
When we think about it, most of us have been measured in some way or another since we were kids. When you’re born your height and weight are checked; you go to school and you keep getting tests and when you go to work you have a performance review once or twice a year.
This has all been done so that someone else can tell you how you are doing. Everyone wants you to be a well-rounded individual. The problem is, balanced thinking like this does not leave room for the Picasso’s, Michael Jordan’s and Shakespeare’s of this world.
We can’t all be the same!
FACT: You will have things that are so easy and natural for you to do that many other people would find very difficult. And the same is true in the reverse. So why don’t you focus on using your core skills as much as possible and do your best at that?
When I watched the England rugby team play against France recently, it was plain to see that all the players were in their best positions; forward, backs and midfielders and the team won. The team was playing to its strengths.
The coach didn’t ask the backs to play in the forward positions that would’ve been silly! It would have weakened the team. So why do parents, managers and well-meaning friends ask you to play out of position in life?
The downside of course is when we focus on our weakness it can work against us. Just think if you stopped doing all the things that enjoyed and were excellent at and instead you had to spend your time doing things that you were not good at. My guess is that you’d be fed up, your productivity would be low and your value to the company would decrease in a big way.
This would not be a smart move at all.
You're Born To Succeed
Let’s get real here; each one of us is unique. Furthermore, if you are ever to give a gift to this world it must and will only come out of fulfilment to your core strengths. It will have to be doing something that you love and you are excellent at.
This snippet from PGA, Golf Coach Blake Smith is so appropriate for us non-golfers too…
“Strategy is often a forgotten part of the game of golf. We all play golf differently; some of us bomb the driver while others make a lot of putts. The key to scoring is to play to your strengths and develop a game plan according to those strengths.”
So we need a strategy for our lives too, just like the golfers. You and I need to play to our strengths and develop a game plan according to those strengths.
Have you ever thought about identifying what your core strengths are? Most of us never do. The thing is it’s not as difficult as you think.
Just ponder on these questions for a moment…
- What are the things you can do easily and have a passion for?
- What are the things that your friends often ask you personally to help them out with?
- What is the thing that when you do it, you can easily drift into a world of your own?
The answer to these questions could be a clue to your core strengths.
When you feel most successful you are combining your unique talents with your intelligence and applying them to what you really care about.
Let’s all play to our strengths today!
From my heart to yours
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Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play.www.donovangrant.com