Practical Parents: Self discipline secrets made easy
By Donovan Grant
What does self-discipline mean to you? Can you hold up your hand and say “I do what I say eight times out of ten?”
Self discipline is something that most of us parents struggle with as we strive to raise our family successfully. I for sure have had my share of troubles with staying on track.
The thing is, we’re not talking about being a control freak here; we’re talking about following through and moving a step closer to your goals and plans. For some people, you have problems getting going or finishing things; while for others you need to slow down, put your feet up and give yourself a well deserved rest.
Have you ever said to yourself that "I should be working on this project" but an hour later find yourself in front of the TV watching reruns? Or how about trying to stick to a healthy eating plan and before you know it you are chomping down all the usual sweet and fatty comfort foods?
Sure, none of us are robots who can just stay on track day in day out; or can we?
In over 20 years of being a dad, nurturing, building and empowering my family I can affirm that self-discipline is the key to accomplishing any worthwhile activity. Whenever important projects often took too long to complete, it was due to distractions and procrastination. From decorating a child’s bedroom to sorting out the paperwork like switching gas & electricity suppliers; it all takes self discipline.
Let’s face it though; something will always get in the way. So instead of beating yourself up, give yourself some grace and know that we’re all going to slip up from time to time.
Looking at it from another perspective, could it be there’s a part of you that gets in the way of getting things done?
This thought may be a bit freaky, yet this is possible. Maybe a part of you just does not want self-discipline and enjoys disorder. This part of you is very clever at putting up mental blocks and continually trying to throw you of course. And here’s the thing- it’s not done so that you become a starter who never finishes, or someone has to keep seven plates spinning in the air or else. It might just be that it provides a pointer to where your weaknesses lie.
To put it another way stop fighting the voice inside you. You’re not supposed to eliminate this inner voice; you are supposed to work with it to reach your goals. It’s like your personal thermometer gauge that lights up whenever you’re off track. Your voice of self discipline shows up to says “hey, let’s get back on track now!”
This idea alone can give you more power than a job promotion to the next grade. And you can use this power to be a more resilient and healthy person, parent, spouse and student.
So what can you do next to raise your level of self discipline? Simple, just say “I’m ready” and get started.
There is no magic wand out there to help improve your self discipline, it takes work, relies on you to listen to your inner voice and you need to keep going.
Here’s a readers digest version of getting your self discipline back on track:
1. Think of an area in your life that you need to have greater self discipline – write it down
2. Choose an area that is inspiring to you and excites you
3. Write down why it is important for you to have discipline in this area
4. Do some research on the internet of someone who face a similar challenge and find out how they overcame it
5. Set yourself a real big mouth watering goal in this same area
6. Do one small action step towards it every day.
7. Watch self discipline happen right before your very eyes.
It’s time to stop dreaming and start doing. If you dilly-dally or are not following through on your dream, if you have difficulty losing weight or exercising, or simply are not doing the things that you know you should be doing just make the decision “today is the day! It’s my time!” You’ll be glad you did.
Remember this- You can have all the productivity and goal setting systems in the world; however it's only going to make you feel like a failure if you don't have the self-discipline to achieve what you're going for. Develop your self discipline and it will serve you well for the rest of your life!
So what does self-discipline mean to you? If it’s not what you want, then now is the time to give it a new meaning.
Over to You
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Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play. www.donovangrant.com