Things Parents Do On A Monday Morning
By Donovan Grant
Are you a Monday morning person? Not everyone enjoys Monday. For many people the thought of commuting on the same train with the same people to the same office just doesn’t offer much joy.
This Monday morning the 8 minute brisk walk to the train station was just that bit brisker because it was freezing! If you can imagine a man wearing a T-shirt, a shirt, a woollen jumper with a thick winter coat and hat, well that was me. My hands were firmly pushed into my coat pockets because I didn’t know where my gloves were.
Have you ever been too cold to think straight?
Well, that’s how it was as I strode down the road. I guess daydreaming would sum up my random thoughts… how many emails will be in the inbox when I log on, have I got any meetings arranged this morning, I hope the train is not late today… and then wham!!
It was almost as if someone shouted “DONOVAN” from across the road.
My attention was totally interrupted by a scene that was totally out of place. A woman was washing her Toyota Jeep by hand wearing what seemed like just a T-shirt and some jogging bottoms. This lady did not have a coat, a hat or any gloves!! “Is she crazy?” then the second thought was “no she’s Super woman”.
Now I don’t know if this woman thought or even cared what other people would be thinking about her and what she was doing. But she was sure giving that car a good wash as I walked by. Oh by the way, it was still only 7:23 am.
Have you ever gone against the crowd and done something that others thought was weird?
This is the thing that I began to consider, isn’t there a bit of weirdness in all of us? As I continued my walk my mind went racing away to find some of my “weird moments”. There was nothing coming from the archives of my mind initially and then all of a sudden, I found a few… I wanted to be a magician when I grew up (really), I went to a strange school because we wore a brown blazer (according to my friends thought) and I became a rugby player when all my friends were playing soccer. I guess these are not crazy weird, but I dig get picked on by friends because of them.
Looking back now, these things were not that big a deal. But when you are a young boy growing up and finding his way in life no one wants to be seen as the odd one out. When a parent tells their son “don’t follow the crowd”; most young boys would be thinking “that’s alright for you to say, you’re not the one being laughed at”.
Could you imagine what it’s like for a child to be the butt of the jokes?
For a young person, being the odd one out is a very uncomfortable position. In fact children can be particularly sensitive to the opinions of their peers. No one wants to feel left out!
Can we help them to create a better picture? If we could help them to find a new meaning rather than just being different could help. We need to teach our children to look within and to find the strengths, talents and goodness that they are blessed with. There’s nothing a parent wants to see more than the development of the child. When we build up and boost their confidence they become more resilient to the bad vibes for others.
Could your child be in need of a kind word today? Take five minutes to sit with your child and compliment them on something that they can do very well. Share with them what makes them so special to you.
The more we share moments like this with our children, the more they will become free in their thinking. And after a while they will be giving new meanings to being the odd one out.
Let’s celebrate the greatness and uniqueness in our children everyday.
It’s an honour to serve you every day.
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Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play. www.donovangrant.com