Pick A Path: Smart Career Steps For Smart Young People Part 2
By Donovan Grant
All parents want the best for their children. This is true in life, in health and in their future.
When your son or daughter graduates from school or college it becomes their turn to make the choice of what career path to take.
Unfortunately, some parents struggle with this concept. They believe that their child must pursue the right career path and not take some soft option. Some parents say Law, others Medicine and some Engineering. The thing is- who gives a parent the right to say what career their child should pursue?
This may seem a little controversial but you know what… this type of thinking is actually more common than one would imagine.
A quick troll on the internet produced a whole list of queries from mums and dads who were asking questions like “How do I encourage my son to choose career path that I like?”
Can you believe that? What about the choice of the child?
In fact, what has happened to raising children to be responsible, confident and independent?
Now as a father of a couple of young adult daughters I feel the pain of such parents. But, the truth is the young people need to make their own choices.
Yes, I know we’ve paid for them to go to school and college. Yes, I know they are young and they don’t know what it’s like “in the real world.” Yes, I know parents know what’s best for their children.
The problem is that, there is a big cost to pay if they don’t get a chance to choose.
Just suppose for a moment that Johnny has an interest in music instead of going into a business field. Dad and mum say “we want you in the banking industry” and Johnny says he wants to pursue his passion as a guitarist.
Let’s think about just a few of the possible consequences of telling Johnny “no!”
He could resent his parents and probably go through a number of miserable years stuck in a office environment he doesn’t enjoy
He could miss out on pursuing his own dreams and aspirations
He could not experience the valuable life lessons learned by making his own choices
He could get the message that mum and dad have no faith in him
This list could be a lot longer.
Mum and dad, as our children grow and turn into adults we deserve to step back and let them express themselves. There comes a time to let go. If we have sown good seeds in our children then they will reap that plus even more. We have to have trust in them and help to build their self-esteem.
If your own son or daughter is nearing this decision point, then please remember this- everyone has a dream they want to fulfil. Some want business, some the arts and some music. Everyone is different. Instead of stepping on their enthusiasm, give them the choice. Let them do what they want and encourage them no matter what.
One of the worst things you could do is to force your interests and likes down their throat. If they are happy in the field they chose, support them. Even if he or she stumbles, be there for them. Make sure they realise you’re there for them whenever they need you. The best thing a parent can do is to be supportive in your children’s dreams!
NB. Apparently most adults hate our jobs anyway, that’s another big reason they should at least pick a field they have some interest in.
Let’s raise the next generation to be independent and successful.
I believe in you.
What do you think? Have you ever forced your child to pursue the career of your choice? Would you? If you did what was the outcome? Let us know in the comments box below. Who knows, maybe you will another reader to get through a tough decision with their child.
Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play. www.donovangrant.com