One Small Step Can Change Your Family Life
By Donovan Grant
Change Your World
You cannot change the world,
But you can present the world with one improved person – Yourself.
You can go to work on yourself to make yourself
Into the kind of person you admire and respect.
You can become a role model and set a standard for others.
You can control and discipline yourself to resist acting
Or speaking in a negative way
Toward anyone for any reason.
You can insist upon always doing things the loving way,
Rather than the hurtful way.
By doing these things each day,
You can continue on your journey
Toward becoming an exceptional human being.
By Brian Tracy
This poem by Brian Tracy sums up what many of us quietly aspire to be, a role model for others. What it also touches on is change. Many of us parents struggle with the word “change.”
Yes, as we get ‘older’ we can get more set in our ways. And it’s true that there are a lot more demands on our time from family and work. Yet at the same time the majority of us say we want freedom and fresh opportunities in our lives. So what stops us from having it now?
Fear is one reason for sure. Listen, I’m sure that we’ve all stood like a deer caught in the headlights before. It may have been before going for a job interview, or when you heard you were going to have your first child or even when you had to go and see a senior manager at work. You get struck by an emotion and then you say, “can I really do this?”
Psssst! This is just between me and you…. “yes, you can!”
Time is another reason that people give for not making a change. Imagine that your spouse says “honey, I think it’s time we moved house to get space while the kids are growing up” – what bells would that ring for you? You may reply “this is not the right time to move because the government, the economy, inflation or the kids schools” – you might come up with a ton of excuses and blame time. The question is when would it really be the right time?
There is one big reason why people struggle with change… they have tried change before and it didn’t work!
Have you been there? I sure have.
You know when you summoned the courage to finally get out of your comfort zone and try a new skill, a new exercise routine or even just meet some new people. When it goes wrong or you don’t get the desired result, you wonder “why did I bother in the first place?” and you may just give up.
Is there another way that we can look at change that makes it easier to do?
One thing we know is that change needs a lot of energy to make it happen. There is no doubt that we have the energy for change otherwise we would not have had the thought in the first place. But and this is a BIG but, could we be trying to pour into a vessel that is already full without tipping something out first?
Before you throw some thing at the screen in despair think about this for a moment…
MAKE CHANGE EASIER = MAKE SOME ROOM + MAKE A DIFFERENCE
What this little maths equation shows us is that if we want to change something, then we need to prepare for the change first. Surely life can’t be that simple?
Let’s look at an example from Mother Nature:
In school we were all taught that most trees start growing leaves in spring, have fruits during summer months, shed their leaves in autumn and stand proudly bare during winter. This shows us that the trees have a regular cycle, the same pattern every year. If we were to look a little bit closer, we can see that the leaves always get rid of the old leaves before the new ones can grow.
What we learn from trees is that there needs to be a shift in energy when it is time to change.
Is change on the agenda for you in some area of your life? If it is, maybe you need to look no further than out of your window for inspiration. Of course if you do not have any trees in your area, then you can visit a local park.
One small request for you is that you take five minutes today and examine your attitude towards life. Consider whether everything is still right for you or whether there is something that you want to tweak a little bit. Remember this- easier change begins with making some room.
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Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play. www.donovangrant.com