Answering parenting questions: Who says teens don't have ambition?
By Donovan Grant
Every young person has the desire to be somebody. Well-meaning parents, teachers and friends are often telling young people to "aim for what you can get rather than what you really want."
Just because they may not be studying the academics, attending the right school or not living at home with both parents does not stop them from having ambition.
Too many times I have heard parents say "I've no idea what my child is doing or where they are going!" And you hear this for both boys and girls too…
My question to the parents is, "why don't you ask?"
"Oh I can't do that, then I'll be interfering!"
Responses like this are like sounding a horn and waving a big red warning flag.
Take it from me, young adults need our help.
The thing is- it's not easy for young people to speak up for themselves or even acknowledge their successes to date. For some of them, they are waiting for a kind heart to come along, listen and give them permission to continue pursuing their ambition.
Does your child think they deserve to achieve their ambitions?
You would be surprised at how many people really do.
This is where self-awareness comes in. Although a young person may have been told of their potential when they were younger; they still need to be reminded now. They need to be reminded again and again so it becomes a habit.
When you look at the current youth unemployment figures in the UK, it is over one million people. That is huge and it also puts our young job seekers into a confined space. In some cases they are really struggling with 'what is the next step to start career?'
Let's be honest when you go to interviews, give a great performance and receive a "thanks but no thanks" reply time and time again, this can make a massive dent in a young adult's self esteem.
How do we help them to bridge the gap from where they are to where they want to be?
How can we help to turn a fed up job seeker into an unstoppable job getter?
A useful exercise to to get your child to look within. Their success won't come from waiting for someone to say "yes" after a job interview. It will come from them digging
Check this out and recommend that your young adult tries this-
1. Make a list "seven great qualities I love about myself" and "seven achievements that I am proud of". The two lists will be the building blocks for achieving their ambitions.
2. How can I use some of these answers to pursue my ambitions.
Young people need to raise their awareness of how great they really are. It's not just about nice words; it's about digging deep and connecting with their tru potential.
So are young people ambitious? Yes. But it needs to be awakened, nurture and encouraged by the people around them.
When we inspire our young adults to free themselves from negative self-talk, they will be able to release their true greatness. They will look forward to living the life of their dreams and celebrating their ambition rather than settling for less. The sky is the limit!
If your young adult seems to be floundering, don't beat them up or scold them. Instead of that, meet them where they're at and listen. You may find that you being there for them is just the affirmation they need to to keep them moving forward and keep their ambitions intact.
Let's raise our belief in the next generation today!
What is one great quality you see in your child? What is one achievement of theirs that makes you proud? When we take time to celebrate the wins in life, it sets us up for the next one. Please leave a comment or a question below. We love to hear from you.
Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play. www.donovangrant.com