Worried about job loss: How to sharpen the saw during mid-life
By Donovan Grant
A survey of 1,500 UK employees reveals less than half of them feel motivated at work!
I guess this is no real shock in the current economic climate but this is what surprised me: 45% of the group who happen to be middle aged feel that if their company celebrated success more often this would boost the feel good factor.
Would that work for you?
Now just before you start jumping up and down shouting “celebrating success doesn’t motivate me, show me the money baby!” I will add that although lack of pay rise is one of the usual culprits, the survey commissioned by the company Lane4 shared some other interesting info. . .
Many of the people approaching or in mid-life were more worried about their wasted skills, feeling ‘trapped’ at work and a lack of harmony team mates.
Have you ever felt trapped in a job? Yes, me too.
But here’s the thing- isn’t it interesting that the important motivating factors seem to be the softer emotional things rather than just cash, promotions and cars. What’s that all about? Are we just a bunch of old softies?
Well in some ways “yes” we do become softies when we reach mid-life (especially the men). Some of us even get that secret fear that you might become sidelined like a footballer who gets substituted because he wasn’t performing up to the required standard. We all want to stay involved; we all want to be connected and we all want to feel as though with still add value.
Let’s be honest though… we can no longer guarantee anyone will have a job for life anymore. This is a different day. So as the times changes, we have to change too. Mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally.
Now you might be thinking what has my mental, physical, spiritual and emotional shape got to do with feeling under-valued. The honest answer is: A lot.
One of the biggest learnings in my own life is knowing where to look first when I have problems. I look within. Rather than looking outside, blaming someone or something, I start with the where am I out of sync in life right now. The answer never comes right away, but if I keep asking, the answer will eventually come.
I remember a couple of years back, we were on an IT project that demanded we work out of town four days out of five. There were long hours, a ton of work to do and my colleagues and I were not getting on at all. It was stress from all angles.
This went on for over 6-months until eventually the work completed and I returned back to our London office. It wasn’t long before I started to settle down back to my happy self again. What was the difference, I got back in sync. What this meant was getting back to my daily fundamentals.
Donovan’s daily fundamentals:
When I was on the road, I skipped the fundamentals. My excuse was that I had no time. The truth was it’s when I’m doing the fundamentals that I am at my best!
So what about you?
Are you feeling a bit out of sync?
If you are, let me be the one to let you know that you are not alone. This is just a part of the changes and challenges that we go through in mid-life.
The question is are you willing to look within and find your own solution? You do have the power.
But, sometimes you just need a friend to bring a new perspective to your current situation and give you a helping hand. If I may be that friend, I’d like to say go back to your fundamentals. And if you don’t have any fundamentals, then create some.
It doesn’t need to be a major change in your life. Just some simple healthy and rewarding practices you can do every day until they become a habit.
My highest recommendation for daily fundamentals is to include exercise, a healthy breakfast and finding some quiet time for meditation or prayer.
Remember this- you might be middle aged but you’ve still got plenty to give. Rather than worrying about the economy, your company or even your pay rise take some time to get yourself in sync every day.
Life is full of ups and downs, so let’s use the downs as an action signal to keep moving forward!
From my heart to yours
Have you got any questions about daily fundamentals? What are yours? What’s your thoughts on being middle aged? Leave a comment below, we’d love to hear from you.
Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play.www.donovangrant.com