When Young Rioters Wreak Havoc Is This A Show Of Power Or A Cry For Help?
By Donovan Grant
There is something wrong in our capital city and our great country. Something quite simply is wrong. I’m sure you agree that we don’t have to look too far to see that. And when we stop and think about the cause of our country’s ills, many things come to mind.
We begin to wonder if parents no longer have power over children. But it can’t be that. In terms of time to share with our children, we have more today than our parents and previous generations had. We have resources at our disposal. We can teach, play, discipline, love and relax with the family a lot more than before. So it can’t be because parents don’t have the power.
And we wonder if it is due to the fact that society is raising a young generation who are uneducated and irresponsible. Surely it can’t be that! All of our young people are entitled to an education for free until the age of 18. In fact some of these new academies have amazing facilities that help school to be an even more fun experience. So it can’t due to lack of education, because schools have made great progress.
My belief is that we need to look a bit deeper than that if we are to find the cause of our problems. The cause of our rioting children today. If we are to really find it, we have to look in the hearts and souls of our nation.
The issue isn’t that parents have no power, but it’s as if we aren’t able to use enough power. The issue isn’t that our kids are uneducated; it’s as if the youth just don’t care! There seems to be a sense that the material means by which we live has gone way ahead of the love and connection that we live for. So we find ourselves caught in a confused place.
Could what we are seeing now be due to breakdown of the family, respect, discipline and unity?
All parents will remember this- if a neighbour looked out of their door and if they saw you being unruly they would tell you off! And if you went home and complained to your parents you’d get another telling off!
What about,… a school was a place for learning and the teachers ensured that you treated them with respect, as you would your parents. You were even taught to have respect for your fellow class mates.
Call me old fashioned if you must, but let’s consider this:
Do you think that the morals and the values in society are going down hill? Me too!
Let’s be clear on a few of things here.
The riots did not happen because of the shooting of Mr Mark Duggan by the police.
They didn’t happen because the youths wanted new training shoes, TV’s and mobile phones.
And it wasn’t because the youth felt that they were above the law!
FACT: Life has become so out of balance for many in the UK, these young people feel disengaged and they feel they have nothing to lose.
The sad truth is that many of these rioters do not realise how talented they are, how much greatness they have within them and how successful their future can be. Even sadder- if we do not meet them where they are and talk and support them, they will never know any different.
They are still our children.
Sending a message was their goal, not riots. A message that they are hurting, they are lonely, no one is listening and they need help.
We cannot condone any of their riotous action in any way. And we must remember that people have lost lives, their business and some even their homes. What we have to do is rebuild our communities that have been dealt a heavy blow!
What does your community look like when the young people are an active part of it?
What will it take in reality to get us there?
Are you willing to give a helping hand raising the village or are you going to sit at home and say “lock them all up” as long as my family is fine then I’m happy?
Building a vibrant community can quite literally change your life. But it takes work, staying power, faith and a commitment to never quit. Our towns and our country needs more people to get involved and help the youth to help themselves.
Imagine, if every person reading this article who dreams about helping just one young person to live a better life….. what if they actually DO IT?
Let’s find reasons to have pride in our community again!
Donovan Grant is a coach, mentor, blogger, speaker and IT professional who brings his wisdom of parenting for the last 21 years and coaching clients through the stages of raising youth and empowering leaders with life lessons that are changing generations. He is a passionate and committed leader who believes that we all have the ability to help to change someone else’s life. Actively doing so as a catalyst for many years he teaches how to live a life of success, balance, integrity and fun, whether at work or at play. www.donovangrant.com